Everything that happens to us does not happen to please our desires. Events in our life happen as they do. Humans interpretation of these events is what causes us pain. Do not make up rules and expect everyone to follow them. Exercise what influence you can, and then accept what you actually get and make the best of it. In the case of everything that befalls you, remember to turn to yourself and see what faculty you have to deal with it. Understanding how I got to be in places where destiny faced me with such painful events, helps me understand that they were my choices that placed me there; for this reason I cannot blame anyone, nor bear ill feelings toward them. Had I not experience these events, it would have made me a complete different person, and lead me down a different path. And I would not be who I am today.